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How To Help A Drug Addict In Denial
No one wants to admit that they have a problem and most addicts fool themselves into believing that their alcohol or drug use is not a problem by telling themselves they can stop any time they want to or that using is simply their way of relaxing. Approaching an addict that is in denial can be difficult because you may be worried about how to say the right thing. If you are thinking about approaching a loved one who is in denial about their addiction here are some tips that may help.
Knowing When To Talk To Your Loved One is More Important Than Knowing Exactly What to Say
If you really want to help an addict that is denial then you need to be able to know when the best time is to talk to them. Never talk to an addict when they are high they are unlikely to be able to pay attention and may actually get angry when you try and talk to them.
Instead, wait until they are sober and perhaps feeling some of the negative effects of their addiction since they will be more likely to listen to what you have to say. You may also want to take a professional interventionist who understands the addiction, with you to help guide you through the discussion.
Approach Your Loved One with Concern Not Criticism
You want your loved one to know that you truly care about them which they will if you approach them with concern. No one likes to be criticized and an addict in denial may feel that any criticism is a personal attack on him or her as a person.
When talking to your loved one-use I phrases such as “I miss being able to spend time with you.” or “I worry about you when you are gone all night.” You can also talk about the negative effects that their addiction has on things on individual cares about such as his job, marriage, and his children.
When using examples deal in specific instances when something clearly happened, such as “I was heartbroken when you missed that special dinner we had planned for weeks.”
Keep Your Expectations Modest
Don’t approach your loved one expecting them to agree with what you are saying. It is likely that they will continue to deny that they have a problem. Instead of getting angry, take heart that you have planted a seed that may continue to grow over time.
While your loved one may continue to deny their problem, you should come prepared in case they are ready to get the help they need. At the very least you should come prepared with the contact information so that you or your loved one can get in touch with a program that will be able to help them.
If your loved one is ready to get with help with their addiction, you want to be able to act quickly before they have an opportunity to make excuses or change their mind.
Keep in Contact
Even if your loved one is not yet ready to get help, keep in contact with them and continue to show your love and concern. By showing them your care about them they will be more likely to turn to you for help when they are ready to deal with their addiction and get the help that they need.