Knowing When To Talk To Your Loved One is More Important Than Knowing Exactly What to Say

If you really want to help an addict that is denial then you need to be able to know when the best time is to talk to them. Never talk to an addict when they are high they are unlikely to be able to pay attention and may actually get angry when you try and talk to them.

Instead, wait until they are sober and perhaps feeling some of the negative effects of their addiction since they will be more likely to listen to what you have to say. You may also want to take a professional interventionist who understands the addiction, with you to help guide you through the discussion.

Approach Your Loved One with Concern Not Criticism

You want your loved one to know that you truly care about them which they will if you approach them with concern. No one likes to be criticized and an addict in denial may feel that any criticism is a personal attack on him or her as a person.

When talking to your loved one-use I phrases such as “I miss being able to spend time with you.” or “I worry about you when you are gone all night.” You can also talk about the negative effects that their addiction has on things on individual cares about such as his job, marriage, and his children.

When using examples deal in specific instances when something clearly happened, such as “I was heartbroken when you missed that special dinner we had planned for weeks.”

Keep Your Expectations Modest

Don’t approach your loved one expecting them to agree with what you are saying. It is likely that they will continue to deny that they have a problem. Instead of getting angry, take heart that you have planted a seed that may continue to grow over time.

Be Prepared

While your loved one may continue to deny their problem, you should come prepared in case they are ready to get the help they need. At the very least you should come prepared with the contact information so that you or your loved one can get in touch with a program that will be able to help them.

If your loved one is ready to get with help with their addiction, you want to be able to act quickly before they have an opportunity to make excuses or change their mind.

Keep in Contact

Even if your loved one is not yet ready to get help, keep in contact with them and continue to show your love and concern. By showing them your care about them they will be more likely to turn to you for help when they are ready to deal with their addiction and get the help that they need.

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Kevin Dixon, President of KD Consulting Corporation was contacted by the CBS Early show in order to help with educating America about what is an intervention, how do we help someone who doesn’t want help. He facilitated a professional intervention on behalf of the Jecka Family in saving their loved one Jennifer Jecka. She struggles with substance abuse, mental health, and co-dependency to her boyfriend along with her denial of her addiction. Through Kevin Dixon’s help and preparing the family he was able to prepare them for the toughest part with Jennifer, her saying “NO” to accepting treatment.

Kevin speaks with Tracy Smith on the CBS Early Show.

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If you are at the point of considering crisis intervention, you recognize the seriousness of the situation you are in.  You know your loved one is beyond other means of help and is spiraling down a path that can only lead to a bad end.  You may be feeling powerless to help and overwhelmed at the situation.  The person involved is out of control and the situation is tearing your family and friendships apart.  When it reaches the point where you need intervention, you have no other hope left.

Facing the Facts

A crisis intervention is supposed to help the loved one face the facts of their behavior.  Not only on what it is doing to that person but how it affects the family and friends.  With a crisis intervention, this is done in an organized, professional manner where everyone has a chance to speak without being disrespectful.

Prior to the intervention, you will plan what you have to say so that it is done in a calm manner in an attempt to get your point across to the loved one.  You can expect anger and hostility in them because you are asking them to do something they don’t want to do.  A crisis intervention helps you to be able to deal with their attitude without getting upset yourself.

Group Support

An intervention is not done to isolate the loved one; rather the goal is to show support to them to help them get through the situation and reach out for the assistance they need.  By bringing everyone together, you demonstrate how much support the person has to rely on.  This can give them the strength they need to face their addiction.

This step also provides support for the family and friends of the loved one who may have felt that they were all alone in the situation.  They see how it affects others and the common bond they share.

Working with a Crisis Intervention Professional

Crisis interventions can be volatile and frightening for the family and friends.  They can also be damaging to the loved one if not conducted in the right way.  When you work with a professional who has experience in intervention, you have the confidence to know you are taking the right steps.  They can prepare you for what the intervention will bring and help you handle it in the correct manner.

The specialists at KD Consulting have worked with many families and friends of addicts to organize successful interventions.  We will work with you on creating a plan and prepare you for what to say and how to react to your loved one.  This support and education can help you get through a tough time and know that you are doing the right thing.

If you have a loved one who is an addict and you are at the end of your hope, contact KD Consulting today at 866-631-0026.  We specialize in hopeless situations just like yours and can help you approach your loved one in a way that will bring about change.

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